Of course, the real and fair solution is much less politically correct but effective.
Of course, the real and fair solution is much less politically correct but effective. It’s to stop trying to protect people’s feelings. Your feelings are your problem, not mine—and vice versa.
I can't tell you how many times I've said this to people. Yes, it sounds rude and unsympathetic, but if we believe others are adults, then they're as responsible for their self as you are to yourself. Then we must believe they have to be responsible for their own emotions, as well. You don't feel outrage because someone made you, you feel outrage because you allow yourself to be outraged. Replace 'outrage' with any other emotion and the same holds true. For example, no one can make you love, you have to allow yourself to love.
I love this article and what it explains to us. Partially because it echoes my own thoughts on the subject, especially politically correct outrage and socially pressurized censorship. With all our manufactured outrage we're creating a world of sterile automatons, whole generations of people who are afraid to have their own opinions and share them with others all due to fear of public ridicule and every time someone decides not to toe the line it seems like -gates suddenly spring up. No one wants to be tied to a -gate no matter which side they're on.
The thing to remember is we are all the sum of our experiences. Each interaction we've had, each word we've read, each idea we've entertained has shaped us into who we are at any given moment. And experiences we have tomorrow or next year will change us from who we are now. Once we realize that we are merely steel being worked in an forge of experiences we come to understand that we're all the same but different. That understanding makes getting through life a lot less stressful. We've all bumped out heads and stubbed out toes, we've all had a friend or loved one disappoint us and we've all experiences professional triumphs and failures. Maybe not all with the same level of detail and yet each of us can relate to each other in one way or another.
Think of it this way: mass produced items are worthless. They're not special or unique. You have one that's the same as your neighbor and she has one that's the same as her coworker. We don't place a lot of value on mass produced items. It's why we customize our phones and cars, we add little artistic flourishes or seek out limited editions. Is your house decorated like your neighbors? No, even though it has the same floorplan. We want to be unique and yet we tell ourselves our behavior must conform. We download apps that make our phones different. We tint our windows or change our tires and wheels. We don't all listen to the same music or watch the same television shows. We want to be ourselves, to have our own opinions and express ourselves independently.
Be unique. Be yourself, not someone else.
http://observer.com/2015/09/the-real-reason-we-need-to-stop-trying-to-protect-everyones-feelings/
I can't tell you how many times I've said this to people. Yes, it sounds rude and unsympathetic, but if we believe others are adults, then they're as responsible for their self as you are to yourself. Then we must believe they have to be responsible for their own emotions, as well. You don't feel outrage because someone made you, you feel outrage because you allow yourself to be outraged. Replace 'outrage' with any other emotion and the same holds true. For example, no one can make you love, you have to allow yourself to love.
I love this article and what it explains to us. Partially because it echoes my own thoughts on the subject, especially politically correct outrage and socially pressurized censorship. With all our manufactured outrage we're creating a world of sterile automatons, whole generations of people who are afraid to have their own opinions and share them with others all due to fear of public ridicule and every time someone decides not to toe the line it seems like -gates suddenly spring up. No one wants to be tied to a -gate no matter which side they're on.
The thing to remember is we are all the sum of our experiences. Each interaction we've had, each word we've read, each idea we've entertained has shaped us into who we are at any given moment. And experiences we have tomorrow or next year will change us from who we are now. Once we realize that we are merely steel being worked in an forge of experiences we come to understand that we're all the same but different. That understanding makes getting through life a lot less stressful. We've all bumped out heads and stubbed out toes, we've all had a friend or loved one disappoint us and we've all experiences professional triumphs and failures. Maybe not all with the same level of detail and yet each of us can relate to each other in one way or another.
Think of it this way: mass produced items are worthless. They're not special or unique. You have one that's the same as your neighbor and she has one that's the same as her coworker. We don't place a lot of value on mass produced items. It's why we customize our phones and cars, we add little artistic flourishes or seek out limited editions. Is your house decorated like your neighbors? No, even though it has the same floorplan. We want to be unique and yet we tell ourselves our behavior must conform. We download apps that make our phones different. We tint our windows or change our tires and wheels. We don't all listen to the same music or watch the same television shows. We want to be ourselves, to have our own opinions and express ourselves independently.
Be unique. Be yourself, not someone else.
http://observer.com/2015/09/the-real-reason-we-need-to-stop-trying-to-protect-everyones-feelings/
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Someone hug me because I don't think I can own my own feelings!