Do guys call each other names and tease each other over ridiculous things?
Do guys call each other names and tease each other over ridiculous things?
I ask this because I saw a status posted last night which I commented on. The original poster made comment that his smoke alarm was out of battery and he was worried about sleeping through the night. My comment was, "Don't be a sissy." You can survive a night without a smoke alarm for one night.
His response was that he has a lot of items in his house which can spontaneously burst into flame such as glass-blowing equipment, welding and high-powered power supplies (for electronics, I assume). Fair enough.
However, a woman jumped in there and started calling me all sorts of troglodyte-type names because I told the OP not to be a sissy.
I explained to her that that's how guys are with each other, it's a bonding experience. But that didn't satisfy her, instead she came back and called me immature. I explained this was a social network and she needed to calm down, this is how men are social with each other. She called me more names an told me how I act with my friends isn't appropriate with how I act around people online, even going so far to assume I don't know the original poster in real life.
She then told me to "go away." Really? She expected me to simply "go away" because she didn't like me commenting in his post? Especially, when after all this back and forth he never addressed the "sissy" comment at all, either indicating that he shrugged it off or didn't think anything of it in the first place.
So, I had to explain to her that Public posts are open to public commentary and that this isn't LinkedIN, this is Google+, where a level of professionalism isn't automatically expected.
That all being said, we men tend to call each other names and tease each other as a bonding experience. I use such goodhearted ribbing to determine of someone is friendship material or just a friendly or business acquaintance. For example, just today I told the guy at Subway, who was dancing behind the counter, that I wasn't going to throw money at him. He said that was okay and gave me a free drink.
I know this behavior is real common with my guy friends, too. However, in the name being objective I post the question out to Google+land. Am I living in a like-minded bubble? Is it really a public faux-pas for one guy tease another?
I ask this because I saw a status posted last night which I commented on. The original poster made comment that his smoke alarm was out of battery and he was worried about sleeping through the night. My comment was, "Don't be a sissy." You can survive a night without a smoke alarm for one night.
His response was that he has a lot of items in his house which can spontaneously burst into flame such as glass-blowing equipment, welding and high-powered power supplies (for electronics, I assume). Fair enough.
However, a woman jumped in there and started calling me all sorts of troglodyte-type names because I told the OP not to be a sissy.
I explained to her that that's how guys are with each other, it's a bonding experience. But that didn't satisfy her, instead she came back and called me immature. I explained this was a social network and she needed to calm down, this is how men are social with each other. She called me more names an told me how I act with my friends isn't appropriate with how I act around people online, even going so far to assume I don't know the original poster in real life.
She then told me to "go away." Really? She expected me to simply "go away" because she didn't like me commenting in his post? Especially, when after all this back and forth he never addressed the "sissy" comment at all, either indicating that he shrugged it off or didn't think anything of it in the first place.
So, I had to explain to her that Public posts are open to public commentary and that this isn't LinkedIN, this is Google+, where a level of professionalism isn't automatically expected.
That all being said, we men tend to call each other names and tease each other as a bonding experience. I use such goodhearted ribbing to determine of someone is friendship material or just a friendly or business acquaintance. For example, just today I told the guy at Subway, who was dancing behind the counter, that I wasn't going to throw money at him. He said that was okay and gave me a free drink.
I know this behavior is real common with my guy friends, too. However, in the name being objective I post the question out to Google+land. Am I living in a like-minded bubble? Is it really a public faux-pas for one guy tease another?
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That's the thing about the internet, there is no way for people to tell if it's a joke or not. I might have just let it go, but I don't think you did anything wrong by joking around
IMHO you weren't off for joking around, and she wasn't off for calling you on something she perceived as offensive. Both stances being slightly warped.
However, to address the topic of your post, yes, my friends and I call each other totally stupid teasing names in our post comments. But, I have had times where I didn't know that someone was IRL friends and that they were joking. And I'm sure that plenty of comments we have made would seem very offensive to outsiders, but that's how we are.
But that's what men do.
But out of the entire exchange, he never made issue of it, but she made it into a huge issue not even tackling the original subject matter of the post until later where her one comment was something along the lines of: he has reason to be worried.
If you think you're going to make a difference and stop people from using terms you personally find offensive, you're totally a gay sissy.
The last sentence has 13% Sarcasm Content for the Sarcastic Intolerant.